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Everyone must have ever been under stress relating to either career, social or household affairs. Gratefully, good communication and self management can remove the stress occurring in marriage life.
No free time, office job strains, kids’ nuisances, bills to pay, never ending house chores. They all sound too familiar, don’t they? Stress haunts you in everything you do, and can affect your feeling anytime.
The way you communicate proves to be greatly influential. At one moment you are a calm person with no stress, but you can change drastically whenever pressure descends hard upon you.
When under stress you usually think too hasty along with the accompanying depressed mood. Sometimes it sooner makes you get angry with anyone directly in your contact, and this reasonably serves as a stress relief. Most times even the people you love are regardlessly subjected to your anger as well. They can be your spouse and even your loving children. They unfairly must share your anger as they are the ones you come to at the end of the day and keep you company.
So don’t let the pressure burdening you harm your family’s harmony in anyway. For the sake of your loved ones you must learn how to handle your stress positively. There are some tricks for this purpose which can help you, in moments of stress, avoid any conflict with your spouse.
If the stress comes from some factor outside our family, don’t bring it home and unintentionally make your spouse share the stress. You must learn to handle the stress the way you professionally handle your work. See that your personal matters stay apart from your office business and vice versa.
2. Leave Others Alone
Indeed you will feel a bit relieved if you have the chance to release your stress upon someone else. But staying away for a while from your spouse could be an effective way to prevent conflict from springing up.
Wisely get your spouse to comprehend your stress and thus appreciately understand why you are keeping some distance which definitely will bring mutual goodness. And similarly when your spouse seem to be under stress, leave him/her alone for some time. See that no trifle household affairs burden your spouse more.
3. Self Understanding
In moments of stress you need to learn to know and control yourself and to restrain your emotion. It is not too difficult to do : just look into and evaluate your own feeling. So you could check yourself not to treat your spouse wrongly. You also could find out the moment when you start to feel stressed, what the reason is and how to control yourself accordingly.
Be conscious of your responsibility that comes with your marriage life, either as a husband or wife. Be conscious of your obligation to keep your relation in harmony. Don’t let any stress damage the marital bond that has existed so far. Live your life in full responsibility.
5. Self Control
It is you that take control of your own emotion yourself. You automatically can control your stress the moment you learn how to control your min. No one can control your emotion and feeling unless you let it happen. Anyhow your ability to control emotion depends largely on your desire, discipline and will.
6. Stop Worrying
Excessive worries are not good for your health. Worries come when anticipate something in the future while doing nothing about it. But if you make some plan for the future, it makes you feel ready and you find nothing to worry about.
Indeed household life has questions about the future : would your marriage endure, would some temptation come to break the marital relation, and more and more unanswered questions. Stop living in the future! Just think what we can do in the present. Think of today!
7. Don’t Stay Still
When you are under pressure, it is so easy for you to give up. Winston Churchill once said, “When we are walking into difficulties, just keep on walking. Don’t stop and give up!”
Try to relax and think smart, but don’t just give up. If you give up when you are having hard times with your spouse, it will haunt your memory for a long time to come.
8. Go Away
When your relation is in tension, you might just need to go some place to clear your mind. But it isn’t necessary to join a package tour to distant place for this purpose. It will be enough just by doing some activity that can make you forget what problem you are facing, for example, doing some sport. Surveys prove that physical activity helps minimizing the production of the hormone that causes stress. So by putting some distance from your stress, you can think more clearly in dealing with the stress.
9. Be Flexibility
You must read the situation to detect who really is under pressure, your spouse or yourself. By being flexible, it guarantees an easier way to deal with the tension occurring in your relation with your spouse.
10. Ask Others
Consulting other more experienced people might be the best way to help you dealing with your stress and controlling yourself. Ask them how was it like when under stress and how was their feeling at that moment. That way you learn how they reacted and if they didn’t do it well, you always can try to do better and harder for self control.